My experience getting pregnant
Like many women my age, I grew up as part of the birth control generation. Since I was 16 (I am now 31) I was on various types of BC - the pill, the Depo shot, etc. And, like many of my friends, I had absolutely no clue what being on birth control really meant - other than the idea that I won’t get preggo.
When I met my husband and we decided to take the giant leap towards parenthood, I was shocked to learn how difficult it was to actually get pregnant. I mean, come on, you spend your whole life fearing pregnancy and probably wasted (like me) hundreds of dollars on pregnancy tests because you were told that just looking at a penis put a baby inside you (hello sex ed).
After a few months of trying, I felt disappointed and irritated. Given my age, I sought out a fertility doctor who put me on a couple different fertility medications to help encourage my body to ovulate. I also learned that I have PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome), which is, by the way, very common. Without getting into too much detail, PCOS is a condition in which your body overproduces follicles on your ovaries. In the ovaries of the female reproductive system, an ovarian follicle is a fluid-filled sac that contains an immature egg, or oocyte. Some months you “over ovulate” and others, you don’t ovulate at all.
The fertility drugs sucked. I felt swollen, bloated, moody, and just off. I became a crazy and obsessive human, waiting for time to pass so I could take the next pill, only to pour over the ovulation test kits like a psycho. After two months, and a chemical pregnancy, I called the quits. I felt adamant about stopping the use of the drugs, so that next month, we tried to do things naturally. I was shocked to learn that I did actually get pregnant.
6 weeks later, I had a miscarriage. Going through that process was one of the most raw, uncomfortable, yet enlightening things I have ever experienced. Not to mention, we were traveling for work at the time. Not only was I mourning the passing of this pregnancy, but I realized that there are many women in my life that have gone through a miscarriage. In fact, 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage in the first few weeks. With such an alarming number, you’d think women would talk about it more, eh?
The emotional distress of the miscarriage was enough for my hubby and I to call the quits on “trying” for a little while. With COVID and our work trip being cut short, we headed back to VT for some much needed R&R. I couldn’t go to acupuncture, but my amazing therapist told me of different spots on my body that I could trigger myself. I was meditating, exercising, eating well, and not drinking as much. Honestly, I was healing. Additionally, my sister (who was seeking COVID refuge with me in VT) and I decided to start MONA. I was seed cycling on the regular for 2.5 months with my handy MONA packets.
After a few months, we were shocked to learn that in May, I became pregnant. Ryan and I were “cautiously optimistic” since we were hesitant to get our hopes too high. After having a dream we were having twins the night before my 6 week ultrasound, we learned that next morning that my vision was indeed true - we were having twins!
As with anything natural, especially seed cycling, it takes time for your body to adjust. Not only are we not really “bleeding” on birth control, but our body is not used to producing and regulating our reproductive hormones on it’s own. I wholeheartedly believe that seed cycling, in conjunction with self-care, such as exercise, a balanced diet, lower alcohol intake, and a peaceful state of mind, has a positive impact on your body's ability to ovulate and support a healthy pregnancy.
I strongly encourage any women, who may be experiencing a similar storyline to me, to reach out and we’d be more than happy to support you in your journey in whatever way we can. Infertility and difficulties getting pregnant doesn’t have to be experienced in isolation.
Danielle Visco, Co-Founder, MONA